These are three things that have bothered me more than ever over the past two years, and I feel the need to vent. You never know what the people around you can really be like until they have pissed you off endlessly with one, two, or even all three of these things.
I often find myself asking: "Why do people cheat?" Honestly, what drives people to cheat on someone they're in a relationship with? If you didn't want to be with them you shouldn't have asked them out (or said yes if they asked you). If something in the relationship isn't working for you and you want out, then simply just tell them. Why cheat when you can just as easily see more than one person without being in a relationship? It's pointless, and to me, illogical. If you put yourself in the deep end, then sort it out before moving on. Don't stick with it and dig your grave at the same time.
I often find myself asking: "Where is the need to backstab a friend?" I don't get it. Why do people pretend to be friends with someone if they really, deep down, don't like them? Especially if it's in a circle of friends - it will get you nowhere. The person you backstab will find out, and the outcome will be nasty, and your other friends may feel torn. If you don't like someone then at least make it apparant. Going on as though you like them and then being two-faced about them behind their back is commonly labelled 'immature'. If you at least make it pretty clear that you don't like that person then at least you're being honest. Backstabbing is so unbelievably common that I'm surprised it's not a 'trend'. You can say "I don't care." all you like, but when it comes down to it, you're not looking forward to the conflict.
I often find myself asking: "Why do people lie so much?" Because, truth be told, it is one of the worst ways to lose respect - especially from those you consider to be close to you. Don't lie to make yourself look good, because from then on you'll be adding more and more lies to make this story seem true, and when they find out it was a lie they will turn on you. Don't lie to someone you're going out with, because they will always prefer the truth no matter how much it hurts. And if you've done something wrong and are asked about it, don't lie to cover it up and stay in the 'good books' - what's the use in continuing to lie about it when you've already been found out? If they've discovered the truth and confronted you about it, be a genuine and honest person like you truly are and take a stand. I'm sure if they're real friends they will forgive you. Don't build so many lies til the point where your life and yourself are a lie.
These three things bug me to the core. It makes me angry which causes me to stress out and it's just not healthy. And when these things happen within your circle of friends you start to wonder what kind of people you know. Sure, look over all the bad stuff and forgive them because they're your friends and you know them and they're good people. But how can you be sure that they're not doing it to you? I haven't gotten rid of these friends, but I have distanced myself for a while. I despise these traits; confront me and I'll be honest, tell me I'm wrong and I won't fight against it, tell me I've lied - and you should know better!
I don't sit around making up conspiracies about my life to impress people, I have nothing to lie about. If I don't like someone, I stay away. If I have nothing good to say about someone then I say nothing at all, unless they talk to me about it. And cheating - I've never done such a thing, but it's happened to me many times.
I lose respect for those who do these things, even if it's not all respect - we're only human after all. But if you want to be my friend, do me a favour and just talk to me - I try not to be a bitch and I'm not going to start any fights. But if you tell me lie after lie after lie, then just don't bother.
Am I being too bitchy here? Or have some of the things I said true in some way? No offence intended, I just needed to vent for a few moments.
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